My mom repeats herself over and over again, and yes it frustrates me tremendously!!! It’s the hardest part of all of her medical issues! I’m learning that I need to stop letting it get me frustrated/mad/upset, and just roll with it and be nice to her.
I’ve had some dear friends that have told me it might help if I see a therapist and while I know their intentions are Noble and good I can’t help, but to get frustrated. Just wondering if anyone else is experiencing the same thing.
My pops has been taking the same 7 medications for years. Nowadays, as I give them to him throughout the day, he scrutinized each one and asks what they’re for and if he already took it. Every damn day. I was about to say it’s the same f***ing pill you take every day; but I held back.
Not just you believe me. Some days it’s ok, I can handle it but other days my temper gets the best of me…
It makes my mom incredibly sad to struggle to communicate the way she does, and when I keep saying “Yeah Mom I KNOW, you told me that twice already!”, it makes her sad and frustrated. I try to remind myself of that often and be more patient. But I’m bad at being patient and I’m so exhausted and worn down I have a short fuse some days. Our job is so hard! We’re only human.
Yes. My mother repeats constantly. I allow myself to be human and sometimes I can let it roll off my back and sometimes I walk away. It is truly frustrating. Honestly, the best thing you can do is act like it is the first time you heard it and move on. It helps preserve your sanity.
I am a caregiver and a therapist. I want to reply. Therapy is not only venting, although that is part of it. The therapist would also assess your level of mental health, looking for diagnosable disorders like anxiety and depression, which is common for us caregivers. You should also get feedback and support. The therapist might help you with strategies or local resources. The therapist might help to dig into any guilt, frustration or shame you are feeling. Although therapy might not be right for you, I wanted to clarify that therapy can be a huge part of a caregiver’s mental health.
We bought a tree and had it installed a little over a year ago. It had less branches on the left side. My Mom has conjured up this story about a wicked wind that just twisted and broke off all those branches. At first I told her it was installed that way and now when we have that daily conversation I just go along with her. It takes more patience than I have. I’m lucky in that my Mom is very hard of hearing so when I say, “here we go again” it’s for my entertainment.
Yep. On our way to the doctor’s office she consistently asked the same questions. Where are we going and why are we going there? Had to have been like 10 times in a half hour. I know it’s part of her disease and for the most part I’m very patient but sometimes…it gets overwhelming.
It is overwhelming, and I’d say we all get frustrated. We just answer the questions, or listen to the stories my fathe in law tells. It is so frustrating when they ask the same question repeatedly. I try to remind myself that when we were little we probably did the same thing to them!
As a counselor, I would like to share a secret with you! Therapy is structured according to your specific needs and goals (such as less anger/anxiety) as are determined by you! A good therapist will lead you to a better place emotionally and mentally, advocate for you, and always have your back. It can be life changing and I urge you to consider it!
To me it feels useless to go to therapy; it’s also expensive and time-consuming when we already have enough on our plates. If I get free time I want to spend it enjoying something
Yes my dad does that all the time. It would get frustrating to anyone, I don’t think that means we need therapy, I am not against therapy as I have had it on and off in my 20’s and 30’s. I just don’t feel the need now. I may in the near future but not because I get frustrated. Hell right now I cry at the drop of a hat, does that mean I need therapy? NO I am watching my dad slowly go down and it’s hard. Would therapy maybe help I don’t know, I know this website helps me right now. Good luck all. Hugs and love.
My dad was this way. I tried answering as if I had not just heard the same thing 30 seconds ago and to keep the answer super short. Since he always repeated the same things, I rehearsed short automatic answers before hand. As I got frustrated, I would breathe deeply and try to distract myself. Its not personal, they can’t help it.
It’s frustrating when I am the one who is exhausted and overwhelmed. Other times I just let her go through it again and sometimes she catches herself. I have to remind myself is it because I am the one who is tired… It’s the same way when dealing with the other people I live with.
Yes, what has helped me was we have watched 50 first dates several times. In the movie are people that have memory issues. It helps us to see humor in it. We do get frustrated. But I realize that it often is new to her even though I just told her 5 minutes ago. It is like being with a toddler.
I used to get frustrated. But, I had to let go of the past. My mom is not going to return to how she used to be. This is the new normal. So, in a way, I went through a period of mourning the way mom used to be. If she asks me a question 3 times, I answer it as if it is the first time because she can’t help it. When it goes past 3 times, I say nicely, “You know mom, you’ve asked/told me that 4 times in the last 10 minutes.” Then she’ll apologize, and I tell her no problem. It’s now my job to remember for her.
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